Forgiveness

Many people thought that forgiveness is for the other partner ( who offended you; did something that you don't like etc etc). In fact forgiveness is for yourselve. ( Reference from Matthias yeo)

Unforgiveness:

1. Bitterness

An example, when your happily outside with your friends and one of them called the person that you hate to come along. The bitterness inside you will affect your entire mood when you supposingly should be enjoying yourselve.

2. Bad progress in work or school

At your work place or school. Your boss or teacher assign a project for you and the person you hate. ( Sometimes you don't have the choice to chose.) Your bitterness cause you to produce a very bad job.
Or maybe the person is sitting beside you, you will not have to mood to do anything anymore.

3. Nurse your anger

As your anger grow bigger and bigger, deep in your heart you will wish to see something bad happen to that person. Or even worse, you have will the thought of taking revenge on that person that will cause you to do stupid things. Sometimes anger will take over your mind.

4. Reputation

People will tend to gossip, saying bad things about that person that you don't like. Eventually people will not dare to talk to you again. They afriad that they might say somethiing that you don't like and think that maybe one day you will gossip about he or she.

Forgiveness is not easy but is possible. Don't force your mind to forgive, like keep telling yourselve " i must forgive, i must forgive, i must forgive". Eventually you will become crazy one day(just joking =D).

But think, tell yourselve. Forgiveness is not for the oppsite party, but for yourselve. For you to feel better whenever to see him/her. For you to do a better job whenever you see him/her in the work place. Your life will be more happiler than before and not continously thinking how people treat you badly which make you feel terrible.

Sometimes you can put yourselve in the oppsite party's shoe, think of his/her situation. It will help.

Thats it for today! Thanks to matthias teaching. Night!